Most people live in an illusion where there is always a shortage of time. The only thing there is a shortage of is your prioritization, planning, and awareness.
Saying that you don’t have time, is just an excuse. From when you are born until you die you have roughly 700 000 hours to spend on this magnificent earth.
When you say that you have time, you’re just afraid of being honest with yourself and others. You don’t want to face that you’d rather be in the office than being with your family, scroll down your Facebook feed than seeing your friends, or watch Game of Thrones rather than dragging yourself to the gym.
A lot of people blame their lack of time on work. This becomes slightly more abstract, so let’s brake it down. People work for many and various reasons, but mostly to (1) pay for their basic needs and (2) self realization.
To pay for ones basic needs is a straightforward prioritization, so let’s look into the second area – self realization.
People have different ideas of what self-realization is. It could be everything to appearing successful through luxurious consumption, working for the greater good of society, or perhaps reaching a religious state. These are neither right nor wrong – it is what it is. What bothers me is that most people lie to themselves about it. Take this for example:
“John Jr, to be rather frank: Mum does not want to read bedtime stories to you nor spend time with you in general. I’d rather read financial documents, talk to clients, and spend my days modeling spreadsheets in the office. It’s not that fun, but time passes by. I work long hours, not to pay for our basic needs, but because currently I want new leather seating in our BMW, upgrade my IPhone, buy Twitter stock“
If a mother would say this directly to her son, he will probably not be that surprised. Mostly because that is what she is telling her son every day through her actions. Again, prioritizing over-consumption to time with her son is neither good nor bad - it is what it is - but when telling her kid “Sorry honey, I don’t have time” is just ignorance.
We’re no angels. We all have guilty pleasures, and an absurd idea of about our own self-realization. Just stop using the lame excuse “I don’t have time”, and you’ll realize that you’ll have all the time in the world to use for your guilty pleasures, friends, family and your quirky self-realization.